Tips for Re-Entry
While there are always mixed emotions surrounding the return to SCU from abroad, International Programs is happy to help smooth your transition back into Santa Clara life. Here are some 'Student Perspectives on Re-entry,' hints drawn from the comments of hundreds of students who have experienced the joys and sorrows of returning from abroad.
I looked forward to returning to the United States because…
-It was time
-I wanted to relax after traveling throughout Europe.
-I wanted to see if the U.S. was where I wanted to be.
-I wanted to reacquaint myself with the things I missed.
-I needed (emotionally) to get home to my family and friends and feel the equality and freedom that comes from living in the States
-I wanted clean clothes and real orange juice.
-There was so much to tell and share!
-I was tired of being away from home and friends.
-I missed understanding the culture around me (the magazines, the TV, the politics, etc).
-I needed to recuperate for a week or so - plus it was Christmas coming up!
-I wanted to see my friends and not have to worry about the language barrier, money, etc.
-I was tired of being different as soon as I opened my mouth.
I regretted leaving my new home abroad because…
-Who knows when I'll have the freedom, time and money to do it all again.
-The longer I was there the more I realized what there was left to see and do.
-I was just getting the hang of it.
-I enjoyed the people and the culture so much that I hated to leave
-I am in love with someone.
-I was so much more comfortable in my overseas situation that I am here. Everything had been so enjoyable -so perfect- and then I had to come back to reality.
-I regretted leaving my new friends.
-Part of the culture, the music, the land and the air was in my blood now. I liked it better than America
-The land, the people and my experience was breathtakingly beautiful.
When I came back to the U.S., I thought that my family would…
-Be glad to see me and supportive (and they were), but being home with them gave me such a gauge for how much I had changed; they were the same, but I wasn't and we really had to readjust.
-React the way they did - not too thrilled, but receptive to my moods.
-I had assumed that they were interested in listening to my experiences and would fix all my favorite foods.
-Not be interested in my adventures, but I was wrong.
-Insist that I tell my stories and show them my pictures immediately, demonstrate my accent and stay home as much as possible.
-React as they did. They listened attentively for an hour or two and then expected me to be back in the swing of things the next day or so.
-Give me some room…but they didn't.
-Be very supportive of me. They were pleased with how much I had gotten out of it.
What is it? Culture shock is the unexpected jolt of coming home to your previous culture. For some, it is a devastating experience that takes time and effort to conquer. For others, it is less painful or difficult. Common to all is the experience of leaving the United States, friends, and family. The new country presents challenges to your personality, your beliefs, your likes and dislikes. Returning means confronting your old world with your new self. The extent to which people experience culture shock varies tremendously. Examine the strategies for coping with culture shock and be ready to put them to use.
Upon returning to the U.S., my biggest surprise was…
-How very hard it has been to adjust. I usually handle change very well; never did I think that I would experience culture shock (because I didn't going over), but boy did I when I came home!
-Not as much had changed as I had expected, which in some way was a relief.
-That half of the people I ran into everyday didn't even know that I'd been gone at all. Trying to answer "Hey, what's up?" after a year abroad is just mind boggling.
-That I missed the things I thought I hated
-The pollution and tackiness of American culture. It was disgusting to see the pains we take to be beautiful. And now I'm back in the same groove.
-How easy readjusting was.
-That everyone spoke English and I could actually have a deep conversation with someone and understand explicitly what was being said.
-That I didn't feel any immediate "return shock"-I was too tired and disoriented to feel much of anything.
-How little international news is covered in our main newspaper.
-That Americans can be just as inefficient as other countries.
-How much I missed the personal freedoms here; I was restrained in my actions and display of personality while abroad but didn't realize how much it affected me.
-People's unawareness about the world
-Realizing that I was in a different culture.
-How lightly my parents reacted to my return.
-I really missed the slower pace of life that I enjoyed abroad, and the meals, and the togetherness. It was hard to come back to a college campus after all that.
-How dull everything seemed.
-That some people were genuinely interested in hearing about my experience. This was a wonderful connection with some of my friends.
How to deal with return shock
-Spend some time alone to sort out our feelings, set new goals and priorities, and put things into perspective.
-Participate in a retreat to think about your new place in life.
-Write a letter or document to yourself, cataloging all the things you learned while you were abroad and that you don't want to forget - about yourself, your place in the world, your capabilities, etc. Consider writing this while you are still abroad and mailing it home to your "USA" self.
-Consider the techniques you used to adjust to your host country, and use those same strategies.
-Don't expect old friends to fit into your new needs. Seek out new friends if necessary.
-Join the International Club at Santa Clara to keep learning & doing new things and meeting new people.
-Don't try to return to the old situation because people and circumstances have changed.
-Learn to distinguish between those who are mildly interested and those who want to hear the details.
-Seek out your good friends and share both the joys and readjustment problems.
-Listen to your friends' experiences too.
-Don't resent that your family/friends had experiences while you were gone, i.e., that life went on without you.
-Use diplomacy in raving about your host country: some people may feel that you have been disloyal to the U.S. and don't want to hear about your wonderful host country.
-Don't impose your cultural changes upon others.
-When asked stereotypical questions (such as "Aren't all Japanese short?"), respond with cultural relativism ("For Japan, no"). Tell the facts and don't get emotionally defensive.
-Maintain openness and be aware of your changes within and those of the environment.
-Avoid considering that your new attitudes and goals are superior to those of your family/friends at home.
-Stay healthy since stress may cause you to be unduly tired, easily depressed, or subject to minor illness. As simple as it sounds, make sure you get enough sleep and take care of yourself!
-Always rely on humor!!
Your new view of the United States
Undoubtedly, your perception of the United States has been challenged since studying abroad. Keep in mind that most have not had the opportunity to see the U.S. from an international perspective.
Since studying abroad, I now see the United States…
-As having more cultural and societal influences on other countries than I had imagined.
-In a better light - I hated it before I left, but missed it while I was away.
-As a materialistic and capitalistic society.
-Exactly the same.
-With an international perspective.
-As an incredibly wealthy country with an extreme disparity between the rich and poor.
-As progressive in movements such as the women's movement.
-As the wonderful, influential, and important country that it is. How fortunate and proud I am to live in this country.
The best way to adjust to SCU again is to…
-Remember that you can experience new and exciting things here at SCU too. It might not be as exciting as a bike ride through Amsterdam or New Year's Eve in Berlin, but you can always learn and explore new experiences.
-Work with other international students who are experiencing your home country for the first time. Become involved with international students through the Drahmann Center's International Students Office and through the International Programs Exchange Students.
-Plan your future. You can travel again through a variety of options. Talk to the Career Center about opportunities to work abroad or to teach/volunteer abroad after graduation. This site has many links to also help you in this process.
-Hang in there. The homesickness for your other culture will pass.
-Accept the fact that you missed out on some events with your friends, but don't be discouraged. Start your friendships with a fresh beginning.
-Look at it like you have just transferred to a different college.
-Grin and bear it. Get involved in activities that might relate to your experience.
-Re-evaluate what you liked to do before you left and what you want to do now. Put the new you back into campus life.
-Realize that not everyone is going to feel the way you do about other countries, the world, etc.
-Find your pace and don't rush into things.
-Think up a new answer every time someone asks, "So how was____?"
Putting your study abroad experience into perspective
Keep your study abroad experience alive:
-Continue taking classes in your second language. Being able to speak your host country's language can help to keep your study experience alive.
-Get involved with the International Programs Office. Spread the word about your program or the benefits of studying abroad. Talk to International Programs about becoming a Peer Advisor! Hiring takes place every January for a one-year appointment.
-Learn more about your host country by taking related classes.
-Keep in touch with your friends in your host country. Address and stamp at least two envelopes so you write at least twice a year! Send photos.
-Subscribe to an international newspaper or a magazine from your host country.
If I could do it over, I would…
-Plan to stay for an entire year.
-Spend less time worrying about if I was doing everything right, and spend more time just having fun and exploring the countryside.
-Pick a different program
-Go to the places I meant to go
-Have indulged myself in more cultural activities.
-Do it exactly the same, I think.
-Take more money.
-Choose a different residence arrangement.
-Not come back. Well, not at least for a while.
The most important thing I learned was…
-I can live and function on my own and have fun.
-Who I am, was, and will be.
-I had the confidence to communicate in another language.
-We're all very similar.
-It is possible to get along with very little knowledge of a new language while traveling as long as you are friendly and polite
-That suffering builds character, and what seems horrible now may seem funny later.
-Every culture has its problems and strengths.
-That there are some things you cannot control, but everything works out.
-As appreciation of differences, whether I liked them or not.
-That I come from a relatively privileged background and country.
-That America wasn't as bad as I thought.
-That I can make my own pace and live up to MY standards
-I can make intimate and wonderful friendships, represent my nation with pride and humility, take care of my own plans and life, touch a special group of friends, and recognize the beauty of the earth and sea, all with success and joy.
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Welcome back. We are always anxious and willing to see your pictures, hear your stories and listen to what made your abroad experience wonderful or challenging or a learning experience. Please stop by and see us!