Santa Clara University

Wellness Center

Straight Talk from Queer Abby

Sex, Dating, and Relationship Advice for ALL Sexualities

I’m not sure if I am still in love with my boy/girlfriend, what can I do?
Do I need to have a PAP exam?
When do you know if you are ready to have sex?
I’m gay and need help coming out to my parents?
How do I protect myself from pregnancy & STDs?
I come from a divorced family, can I still have a healthy relationship?
How should I handle a long distance relationship?
I have problems trusting my girlfriend, what should I do?

Whether your attractions and relationships are same-sex, opposite-sex, both, or unclear, Queer Abby is ALL ABOUT helping you make sense of your sexual health, relationship and intimacy needs.

How exactly will this happen? Just send your question to the e-mail address below and you will receive some free, fabulous and CONFIDENTIAL advice from Queer Abby (one of our professional counselors at the Counseling Center or Student Wellness Center).

CLICK HERE to read past questions answered by "Queer Abby".

*PLEASE NOTE* The "Queer Abby" advice service is intended for Santa Clara University students only. This service should be utilized only for informational and/or educational purposes. It is NOT a substitute for medical or psychological treatment and is not intended to address emergency situations. If you are experiencing a medical or psychiatric emergency, contact 911 or a Crisis/Emergency number immediately.

 Medical Amnesty & Good Samaritan Info


FAQ - All About Abby
What is the Purpose of Queer Abby? How soon can I expect a response from Abby? Are my questions really confidential? Is Abby available all the time? What if I need immediate assistance?


Relationship Info

QUIZ: Am I In a Healthy Relationship?

All About Relationships
Forms of Abuse in Relationships
Top 20 Relationship Warning Signs
Relationship Break-Ups
The Truth About STDs

HIV and HIV Transmission

Sexual Orientation Info
What is Sexual Orientation?
Coming Out as GLBTQ
How to be an Ally

SCU Safe Space Program 

GLBTQ Online Resources

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