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Healthy Relationships

A healthy relationship is one where both people feel safe and respected. The relationship should be based on, and include trust, honesty, equality and mutual respect.


Signs of an unhealthy relationship:


Dating Violence

Dating violence can take on many forms. Some of the possible ways a person can be subjected to dating violence are listed below:

Sexual Assault

Sexual assault has many definitions. It can include sexual abuse, acquaintance rape, rape and other forms of sexual violation.


The legal definition of rape (taken from Section 261 of the California Penal Code) is as follows: "an act of sexual intercourse accomplished with a person not the spouse of the perpetrator under any of the following circumstances:

  1. Where a person is incapable, because of a mental disorder or developmental or physical disability, of giving legal consent, and this is known or reasonably should be known to the person committing the act.
  2. Where it is accomplished against a person's will by means of force, violence, duress, menace, or fear of immediate and unlawful bodily injury on the person or another.
  3. Where a person is prevented from resisting by any intoxicating or anesthetic substance, or any controlled substance, and this condition was known, or reasonably should have been known by the accused.
  4. Where a person is at the time unconscious of the nature of the act, and this in known to the accused.
  5. Where a person submits under the belief that the person committing the act is the victim's spouse, and this belief is induced by any artifice, pretense, or concealment practiced by the accused, with the intent to induce the belief.
  6. Where the act is accomplished against the victim's will by threatening to retaliate in the future against the victim or any other person, and there is a reasonable possibility that the perpetrator will execute the threat.
  7. (Source: Office of the Dean of Students, Sexual Assault Protocol, Santa Clara University)

    It is important to note that California law (Code 263) states that "any sexual penetration, however slight, is sufficient to complete the crime" and that there are additional definitions for both marital rape (Code 262) and statutory rape (Code 261.5)

    For further information on Santa Clara University's sexual assault protocol, contact the Office of the Dean of Students, Benson Memorial Center 218.

Seek medical attention. Do not change clothes, bathe or douche so that medical evidence can be gathered should you decide to press charges. It is important for you to be checked for injuries and you may be at risk for sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancy.

Talk to someone trained to help about the incident-do not try and ignore or deny what has happened. Good resources are:

Above all, remember: This is not your fault. You are the victim of a crime.

If someone has come to you just after being assaulted or raped, encourage (and assist) them in getting medical attention. Be as supportive as possible by listening to, and believing, them. And remind them that it is not their fault. You may also call the rape hotline at (408) 554-RAPE which will connect you with a trained counselor.


Rohypnol is a strong sedative (currently illegal in the United States) that is now often referred to as a "date rape" drug. While it is often referred to as "roofie", it is also known as Roach, Roche, Run-Trip-and-Fall, Mexican Valium, and The Forget Pill.

When taken, it can cause a person to feel extremely sleepy, and in many cases, cause a person to black out followed by amnesia upon waking up. It is during this phase that many women are sexually assaulted. The effects of Rohypnol can take place in 30-60 minutes, but a potential blackout can last up to 24 hours.

To protect yourself against Rohypnol, there are a number of precautions one can take:

While still not as common as Rohypnol, Gamma-hydroxybutyric acid aka "G" can cause the same effects as that of roofies.

Sexual Harassment

Sexual harassment is "unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature that makes someone feel uncomfortable or unwelcome in the workplace by focusing attention on their gender instead of their professional qualifications." Sexual harassment normally occurs in a work or school setting, but can occur in any social situation. Remember: sexual harassment is different than sexual assault; sexual assault involves physical contact while sexual harassment does not.


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