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Alexa faces an issue when her Irish Catholic boyfriend expresses interest to meet her very traditional Chinese parents.

**DISCLAIMER: All characters and scenarios in this post are fictional.**

Alexa comes from a close-knit Chinese family. Her parents came to the United States from Beijing in 1981 so that her father could attend college. Alexa was born in California, and her parents chose to remain in the U.S. Although they are comfortable in their adopted homeland, they remain very traditional about certain things. In particular, they expect Alexa to marry a Chinese boy.
Alexa, however, doesn’t see things the same way. When she went away to college, she was open to dating people from every ethnicity. She started seeing Brian, an Irish Catholic guy, two months into their freshman year. Now a junior, Alexa is expecting a visit from her parents, and Brian would like to meet them. 
Should Alexa introduce Brian to her family? Is it racist for Alexa’s parents to oppose interracial relationships?  
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